At fourteen I read Richard Dawkins ‘The God Delusion’ and memorised the key arguments ready to take into school and have it out with my R.E teacher. I was a angry kid who was unhappy with the word and all I saw from God was conflict, war, judgement and betrayal. I had no need for the rules, hypocrisy and judgement of religion. Funnily enough I still don’t. But what I soon found out was the articulate and smartly crafted words of Richard Dawkins held no comfort to a human being at a time of great distress and suffering. Mr Dawkins could shine no light in the darkness I had found myself in and offered no solution to the unavoidable realisation that something was missing.
The 'Positivity Project’ is going to be a month of of tips and techniques to live a more positive life, it's going to include weekly emails, daily tasks and a private facebook group where we can share, inspire and grow.
What inspires you? What books do you recommend? Baby number 2? Are you still sober? If so do you get urges to drink and how do you not give in? Do you and Ebony ever get 'hate' and how do you react?Do you have a routine that helps with anxiety? Do you think it's healthy for Daisy to be on social media and part of your job?
For me, I have learnt to look past the person and into the pain. I have learnt the power of empathy. The power to see something from another point of view. It's not about me being right and them being wrong. It's not even about them being right and me being wrong. It's simply understanding the situation at a deeper level.
If you woke up today with no hope left in your soul, instead of giving up or going back to bed I urge you to see this as a sign to change. Embrace it as the moment in time you decided to take back your life. There is so much hope and freedom in a life but when anxiety or depression is totally overpowering it’s too easy to lose sight of it. But it’s still there. Believe me. It's there.
Are you tired of thinking? If I told you I heard voices in my head I'm sure most of you would be worried. Some of you might even politely suggest I see a doctor or a psychiatrist. But it's the truth. Each and everyday I hear voices, continuous monologues or dialogues that follow me relentlessly from the moment I wake up until the moment I go to sleep. And do you wanna know something really scary? So do you. The only difference is you might not know it.
If you are struggling, feeling overwhelmed or angry then please don't worry. I have felt the same way. Life is more than our diabetes though. It's more than glucose monitors and insulin pens. Life is an adventure so go and live it. We are all behind you.
I have spent half my life looking for happiness in the wrong places. I think most of us are like that. I don't think it's our fault, we live in a society that is constantly reinforcing the idea that if we only get this or get that then we will be happy. Happiness is sold to us as a destination. A result of hard work and careful planning and sacrifice. This is wrong and our fruitless pursuit has ended with a generation feeling empty, frustrated and alone. It doesn't have to be like that.
Depression, passion & trying for a baby. Thanks so much for everyone who sent in questions for the first Q&A. I thought it was a good opportunity to get to know each other better on the blog! I have picked a few to answer here and I hope they are useful in some way. I want to do these Q&A's every so often so make sure you comment below anything else you'd like answered.
The communities that can be found online have given me the strength to get through some of my darkest days. Social Media gives us the ability to find likeminded individuals on a similar journey to us within seconds and thus begin a relationship of understanding and identification.At times when I convinced myself I was alone, social media was there to boldly and unapologetic tell me that I wasn't. Let me give you an example. A year ago I was rushed into hospital after being diagnosed with Type 1 Diabetes.
Now let's talk about gratitude. A subject that plays as heavily in the book as it does in my own life. It is also one of the answers you are looking for on the quest for 'Joy'. Not that car, the exam result, the promotion, or that new house you can't afford...
I was dissatisfied with life. Externally life was good, I had no reason to feel down, depressed or uneasy but somehow internally I was a mess. Maybe you've felt the same? I've heard people refer to it as a 'hole in the soul'.
What a wake up call. I was watching a talk on leadership this morning and the man mentioned that this generation spend more time looking at a phone than at another human being. It was a throw away comment but it hit me like a ton of bricks.
I would overthink a situation so much that my body would go into fight or flight mode. How crazy is that? A conversation with another human being could be so dramatic that it would cause my body to deliver the same fight or flight reaction our ancestors used to outrun literal death.